I have been playing DOTA recently with my friends from EoD, and NYP. The game is alright, fun and enjoyable. But like always, game attitudes exist.
In this article, i will be writting about someone, not as a criticism, but just an opinion of mine which i always say out to friends. It awkward, my desire in friendships is to get along with it without much conflicts, but there's always an element in me which always say out things i dislike about them, which normally emerges in games. This is me, not particularly good, but so be it, i am myself.
Gaming with friends, should be fun and interactive, only hahaha and no ccb in layman terms. It can be competitive to a certain degree, but never should it evolve into hostility. People don't usually like to lose, they play to win, but against friends, it's either your friends win, or you win, shouldn't you be happy that your friends win too? Ok, maybe you are at the receiving end, but does it matter? What is the true value of friendship?
My gaming entics are to have fun, improve on it, and that's it. The only time i would really want to win is when i feel i have to prove something, example: lost the previous round, or when enemies pissed me off by using vulgarities, sarcasm or something similiar. Those are the only times i would play with that winning urge.
In Gunbound, after i recre8ed a character and was seeking a good record of wins, i did indeed feel disappointed when i lose, maybe saying where the problem lies if it's my friend that did the mistake. But never scolding them.
Losing and winning is part and parcel of gaming, no one always win and no one always lose, people can seek to win, but should show the sportsmanship of a hand shake even if they lose, and not get hostile over it. Yes, after losing, we can seek revenge, a rematch, a challenge, to do better than the previous round and correct the mistakes we did.
I seriously dislike to see vulgarities in game, as in, those which the scolder isn't scolding him/herself. Some maybe jokes, but most jokes to me are just excuses and for other reasons. Like showing superiority etc. As though an acknowledge that they are good must be instant, but what is good and bad? Playing a game better is good? Or playing a game with sportsmanship is good? Everyone should spare a thought for others.
These are what i think and feel. Everyone has a different thinking which may differ from me.
Before i start the article, i would like to clarify something in DOTA.
Games do get boring, especially when there's no motive in it. It's similiar to playing mmorpg for a certain period, afterwhich you would lose the motive, the element that kept you playing it, either for the sake of friends, fun, interaction, exploration etc.
But it's different to get bored and practically give up. In relation to DOTA, die afew times and decide not to try anymore.
Reason:
One is bored from the starting, a lost of motivation.
One is bored from self disappointment, a sense of inferiority and denial of superiority. Ego Problem basically.
Some people learn games faster, there're various reason for it, it can be due to the time spent, the motivation, the desires, the view of games, and many more. So, faster gamers should acknowledge that there're slower gamers, and slower gamers should acknowledge that there're faster gamers. But it all accounts to the same once they have those same kind of time spent, motivation... etc. I don't really believe in talents.
Ok, about the person in game i want to type about.
Egoistic person actually, treat some particular friends as enemy just becoz he can't accept someone better than him. Especially when the time spent is about the same. All is fair in game as long as you follow the rules, but he would pop out and say lame, for some particular reason. Basically got arrogant becoz of some achievement in life, it (arrogance) grew in him, be it through jokes, or any statement, it will constantly grow. hmm... lemme take a side step and explain what i meant.
People handle praises differently, some will get them deep rooted into their mind and believe they are unique, better than others. Any setback after this deep rooted thinking will erupt into some frustrations, reason? afraid of being banished back to what he was before. Ok another side step.
People start gaming naively, no view of good or bad, it's like those pure thoughts of a child. So, there's no such thing as pro or lousy. And people start as being lousy normally. As it go along, this naiveness would disappear, leave only the pro and lousy element. With the naiveness of a new gamer, being lousy will not deal much of an impact, but when the naiveness is gone, A requirement of being a pro is needed to sustain a clear mind. Not quite clear though, what i meant was something similiar to society, dreamland and realistic world. When something is required to do, instead of people doing something they like to do.
Back, arrogance grow when acknowledge of goodness is achieved, that's what i see those "jokes" are about, calling others noob. It's ok to ask, whether u improved, or some sort, but it's bad to self declare i rocks or some sort. If you are good, people will know, what's the need for the acceleration and fear that no one see you as someone better in some terms.
This leads to a hostility while playing game. Any certain sentence can lead to sarcasm in you, and that's what most of the gamers nowadays are developing, causing gaming not as fun as it was before. Who would like to do something which does not have those substances and elements that he seek?
I may have some more things to say, but i will leave it till next time. I will end this article with the most recent thing my friend did.
It was a game of 5v5, as the game went on, it became 5v3, and the 5 group was winning, one guy from the 3 group said, "gg, my team got two leavers those sort", one sentence only, i don quite remember the exact sentence... but thats the meaning of the sentence. And my friend pop up and say "so?"
It wasn't much, but it shows some attitude in him, it is true that there are two leavers, that guy may be finding excuses, but he did get a fact right, he may feel that it wasn't a match that reflect how he plays and suggested about two leavers, so... why bother? let him say... why must say a "so?" to show that we dominated and will win even if two fellows never leave? It is just a game.
Lets hope all games revert back to when it all started, when there's no comparison. Especially among friends. Or hope no one take good praises into their mind too seriously and see himself as a "Mourinho".
All is just but a game
